看人不顺眼，就是自己修养不够 When we are irritated by others, it is actually because we are still lacking in self-cultivation

前天，我和我的他去公园跑步回家的路途中，我们在车上看到有一位司机因为不满前面的司机，所以就在车上大骂并且按了久久的车笛。这位司机似乎很没有耐性， 脾气火爆。突然，我的他竟然说了一句，"看人不顺眼，就是自己修养不够”。这句话是我N年前跟他分享的，我是看了证严法师的静思语后，觉得这句话话讲的一 点都没错，所以很欢喜的跟他分享。想不到到今天他还记得。哈哈！！地确，假如我们时常看人不顺眼，觉得自己高人一等，觉得自己懂得比别人多，觉得自己做的 事情一定是对的话，很多事情你都会看不顺眼。在这个情况下，可能被你骂的那个人没觉得什么，但是在第三者的眼中，你是那么的没修养，品德恶劣。反过来说， 修养好的人，当然会以另外一种方式来解决问题，而不是大乎小叫的在那里吵闹。我呢? 当我想要发脾气时，看不顺眼一个人的种种行为时，都尽量告诉自己这句话。我要当个有修养的人。。。所以脾气都安了下来。当然，我还是在学习中。我还是会有 臭脾气，希望大家能和我一起共勉，培养好脾气，做个有修养的人。


The day before yesterday, we went to jogging in the park, on the way home, we saw a driver is very discontented and horn loudly the driver in front. The driver is really impatient and hot temper. All of a sudden, I heard my dear he said “When we are irritated by others, it is actually because we are still lacking in self-cultivation”. This phase, I share with him N years ago. I learn this phase from Master Cheng Yen in her Jing Shi YU, and I think this words are right, so I was pleased to share with him. Unbelievable he still remembers it until today. Hahah!! And indeed, if we always think others action is silly, feel superior, feel yourself know more than others, feel all the thing you decided is correct, you will see a lot of things are not pleasing to the eyes. In this case, maybe others will think you are lack of self-cultivation and have poor moral character. If we see from the positive way, people who have well self-cultivation, they will use good and polite way or maybe high EQ way to solve the problem. Screaming on others or get mad is not the good way to solve it. Am I right?? For me, when I want to get angry, or I really can’t stand of certain people or certain incident, I will remind myself with this phase, so I will control my temper. Of course, I am still learning, I still have bad temper, and I hope that we can learn together to be a high EQ people.